If you have been following the blog for a while you know last year I did a year-long read on The Happiness Project. I took it month by month, reflected on what I read, and applied it to my own life. It was an eye-opening experience for me and I am so thankful I did it. The year 2017 has not been the kindest thus far; it has been an absolute roller coaster. It has been very tough financially, emotionally, and relationally. (Don’t worry everything between me and Sweet Hubby is wonderful. We are closer than ever!) With all the things we have gone through, all I can think about is, What is the lesson here? What is God trying to teach me?
I 100% believe that through everything good or bad there is something to learn. It takes maturity to spot the lesson and I lately have been doing some soul-searching. One day it hit me, where do I place my happiness? If someone asked me right now, what would I say? Would I be honest or give a fluffy answer? Still the question lingered.
I am not going to lie to you, I do find joy and happiness in certain things. A cute pair of shoes, a pretty dress, a working car, and nice bathroom are all things that bring me happiness.
Before I go any further, let’s back up. I have been blogging for over three years, however, within the last nine months I have buckled down and really started to take blogging seriously. If you are a blogger you know that being on social media is a must. You have to be accessible, you have to stay on top of trends, and you have to be a constant presence. The more I found myself on social media the more I longed for a cute dress I saw on a fashion bloggers thread. Or desired that adorable bathroom an interior designer posted. Or even envied a vacation a fellow blogger was on with her spouse.
The further I got sucked into this dangerous rabbit hole of social media the more unhappy I got with my own life. I was overlooking beautiful things I had been given by the ultimate Creator. I was not practicing Love Doing Life. The main thing I am most passionate about on this blog!
So I took a step back. I observed. I began to celebrate the beautiful life that was entrusted to me. This realization is nothing new. There are hundreds if not thousands of blog posts out there that talk about being thankful, loving the life you have, don’t compare, or a secret formula on how to be happy. Let’s face it, there is not one formula on how to be happy. There are only tools that can help you to seek happiness. Happiness doesn’t just show up at your door ready for you to receive it. Being happy is a daily task.
What I am going to say that is different from the other happiness “how to” posts? I am going to challenge you. And when I say “you” I really mean me. I need this challenge more than ever right now. Lately I have felt down about life, circumstances, and my blog and what I am about to challenge you with is more for than for you.
WHERE DO YOU PLACE YOUR HAPPINESS?
Do you place your happiness in the next big trip? Do you need to constantly be on the go to achieve happiness? Are you only fulfilled by a change in scenery?
If you are only fulfilled by travels then be careful that you are not missing out on the biggest journey of all. LIFE. Life is always happening and you don’t need to take a trip to experience something amazing.
Do you find joy in filling your calendar? Are you constantly running from one engagement to the next? Do you have something scheduled every night of the week and on weekends?
Ferries Bueller says it best, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” You may be laughing right now but it is so true! It feels like yesterday I was playing out in the rain as a nine-year old. Now I have been married for five and a half years with two children. Life is a bullet train and if you are constantly filling your social calendar with commitments you very well could miss out when all is said and done.
Do you jump at the chance to have the latest dress from Loft? Do you thrive on the hottest technology trends? Are you constantly bringing your hair dresser a picture of the latest hair style?
How many times have you looked back at a picture or yourself and thought, “What was I thinking? Those clothes are hideous!” Or regretted purchasing a 3-D television? (Let’s face it, 3-D televisions are silly) Or saw a photo of yourself with a hairstyle that was bad decision? Have any of those things given you long-lasting happiness? No, because eventually all those things fade away and you replace them with something new.
If you are constantly filling your social calendar with engagements because deep down you are afraid to be still, you miss out on true happiness.
If you are jumping from “high on life” moment to the next ‘high on life” moment you will never be happy. One day the dust WILL settle and what is revealed will be something not so pretty.
Now don’t get me wrong, going on a trip is not bad. Getting together with friends is not bad. Having a well made dress that makes you feel beautiful is not bad. None of these things are necessarily bad but what can be bad is the motive behind it. Is it to keep up with the Joneses? If that is your you will always be unfulfilled and unhappy.
I realize this is pretty heavy stuff to read and process but I believe this is a life long lesson that we will all deal with. The question you have to ask yourself is, “Where do I place my happiness?”
What are your thoughts? Is this something that has been on your mind? I’d love to chat about it.
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