This month is eleven months postpartum. Eleven months after delivering a nine-pound baby via c-section. This postpartum time has been tough. Tough mentally, physically, and emotionally. I have talked a lot about the emotional and mental side of this postpartum journey but today I want to talk about the physical side. You have probably heard of two types of moms: moms who settle into their bodies, keep the baby weight and proudly show off their stretch marks and scars. Then you have the other mom who wants to erase any evidence of ever being pregnant, so they get a few surgeries to help achieve that. Today I am going to tell you why it’s okay to be neither one of those moms. I am going to tell you why it’s okay to want more and how to do that in a healthy way. Here is postpartum weight loss part 9.
For the past eleven months, I have truly struggled with how I feel about my body. Some days I will feel great! I look at myself in the mirror and think, “DANG GIRL! You look good!” and other days, which is most days, I think, “There is so much I want to change.” I have come a long way since I started this postpartum weight loss journey and I am very proud of what I have accomplished. However, I want more. And I think that is ok.
I do not wish to rid my body of scars and stretch marks. What I want is to be healthier and in better shape than I currently am.
Why do I want to be healthier and in better shape than I currently am? I have always been a type A perfectionist and while I know you don’t achieve perfectionism with your body I have always wanted to be the best version of myself and I don’t believe that I have achieved that yet. I desire more. And that’s okay. It’s okay to want more from myself.
If my “why” was because I just wanted to keep up with the Victoria’s Secret models that would be terrible. That is how eating disorders and self-hate come about. I should know, I have struggled with both. (You can read all about it here) I am not a Victoria’s Secret model nor will I ever be and I’m okay with that. I want to be the best version of ME not of someone else. If you are wanting to be thinner because of someone else you need to stop. I would highly recommend speaking with someone who can assist you in this area. Stop comparing yourself to someone else. You will never be that person and shouldn’t want to be. You are unique and beautiful in your own right and THAT is something to celebrate.
Who am I doing this for? Me, I want this for myself. Doing it for myself is really the best person to make the change for. One of the benefits of becoming the best version of myself is that it permeates into every other relationship in my life. My marriage, family, friends. When those relationships benefit, I am a happier person. It becomes one big benefit circle. When I set out to achieve something for the right reason the change sticks.
As a mother, you can want more for your body. And you can want more in a healthy way. I do not believe we should try to erase the physical appearance of motherhood but we also shouldn’t just accept our bodies, baby weight included.
Please pardon my face, I was very sick when these were taken.
Weight: 140 lbs
Waist: 29 1/8 inches
Hips: 39 1/8 inches
Right Bicep: 10 7/8 inches
Left Bicep: 10 7/8 inches
Right Thigh: 22 1/4 inches
Left Thigh: 22 3/4 inches
Have you ever gone through a postpartum weight loss journey before? Have you gone through a weight loss journey? What are some things you learned?
SAVE FOR LATER!