If you have been following the blog for a while you know that I am a big fan of setting goals. I am a type-A, goal-oriented person. The feeling of achievement is addicting for me. I crave it. Each day I make a to-do list, which is the same as making goals. They help me stay on track and complete the most important tasks in a timely manner. For today’s blog post I want to share with you how setting goals will help you achieve your best self.
Who Is Your Best Self?
First things first, what is your ideal best self? When I think about my best self I analyze myself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Physically I have a desired size. Mentally I want to be well-balanced. Emotionally I would like to be in check. No mood swings.
Now that I know my general end goal, I need to work backward. To reach my goal physically, I need to make good food choices and work out regularly. During the months of November and December of last year, my eating wasn’t so great and I slacked on the workouts. During that time, my face broke out. There have been days where I won’t leave the house because the acne is so bad. I am completely embarrassed of my face, it sends my stress level through the roof, which of course does not help my acne. It’s a vicious cycle. I know there are a lot of factors that contribute to acne but I believe not taking care of myself physically is a big reason my face is breaking out and me being unhappy with how I look.
Once I know the goal of becoming my best physical self, I need to put steps in place to achieve that goal. Break the steps down into manageable goals I can meet monthly, weekly and daily. If the goal seems too much to handle chances are I won’t even attempt it. For example, if a laundry pile gets too large I put it off as long as possible! Please tell me I’m not the only one who does that.
Mentally. This can be a complex topic. I do not pretend to be a psychologist or psychiatrist and if you feel you need specialized help, please please please seek professional help. I am very fortunate to not have a need for specialized help and my desire for mental health can be managed with a few adjustments in my daily routine. As a wife, mother, and blogger I am spinning a lot of plates. I know when my breaking point is and to avoid that I really need to have some “me time” each day. That could be as little as five minutes of quiet to just settle myself.
When I don’t allow myself to clear my mind, I am a billion times more likely to lose focus or forget something. During the afternoon, my babies take a nap. I take that time to collect myself mentally. I lay out the things I need to accomplish that day, that week, or that month. It allows me to wrap my mind around what needs to get done. This one-act is very satisfying for a type-A person like me. I feel much more mentally balanced after I do this. I want to encourage you to find an outlet that allows you to collect yourself mentally. An activity where distractions are removed and you can focus on clearing your mind. Starting fresh.
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Emotionally. This is a tough one. I have always been hard on myself to keep it together. Falling apart and unloading my emotional baggage on someone has never been an option. I try my absolute best to see warning signs and then make adjustments. When someone unloads their emotional baggage on me, I feel side-swiped. So why would I do that to someone else? I realize this is a tall order and I will slip up but I am determined to do my best.
The times that I have emotionally side-swiped my husband I have felt completely awful. I mean totally gross inside. He didn’t deserve treatment like that and yet I gave him an ear-full. To balance myself emotionally, I make sure that I take note of warning signs. Basically, know my breaking point and what will push me over the edge. I also am open about my feelings. When something comes up that bothers me I make sure I communicate that in a kind way to my husband. That way he knows it upsets me and I haven’t waited till I explode which would then make everyone feel terrible. (This approach has worked very well for me, I wish I would have done this all my life) I highly encourage you to take note of your emotions throughout the day. Know what makes you happy and what makes you mad. I also encourage you to be open about your feelings. Continuing to manage your feelings is a great way to stay emotionally balanced.
Now that you know, generally speaking, what your best-self looks like, time to get specific. I have found that when my goals are too generic my efforts are less than stellar. When I was in college I used to calculate how well I would need to do in a class to pass it. When just doing enough to pass a class was my goal, my determination to do well was non-existent. However, when my goal was to do my absolute best and get an A, my determination was at 100%. Please learn from my mistakes and establish a specific goal. That way you are sure to give it your best in accomplishing that goal.
KNOW YOUR WHY
This has been something new few me in the past year. Knowing my why. Why do I want to accomplish each goal? When I have a deep desire and passion it adds more weight to the goal. For example, if a physical goal was to lose a significant amount of weight to not have a heart attack. Knowing your why is just as important as setting the goal. I highly recommend that when you write down your goal you also write down your “why”.
Now that we have looked at the key elements to becoming our best-selves, let’s set our goals and get to work! Have you ever set goals this way? What is something that you have learned?
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